Originally posted 5th February 2011
Way back in post one I remember promising random musings and possibly disturbing insights into how my brain works. I feel we have had some disturbing insights so now it is time for a random musing. This one stems from something people keep saying to me at the moment, which is, “everything happens for a reason”. I do not believe this, everything happens and there are reasons but they are human not metaphysical and it is more important what you do as a result of the things that happen. To go with this I have chosen todays picture:
This picture represents choices, enter or don’t, push the button or don’t; make a choice take a stand and take responsibility for it! Apart from a in few exceptional circumstances, there is always a choice behind what we do and it is a human choice. Things do happen, I can’t deny that but there is no grand plan, people do not get made redundant to allow then to go on to better things, people do not die to allow those left behind to learn to face adversity. It is harder to think about life as a series of personal choices but that is really what I think it is.
It is better to trust yourself than believe against all odds that something will come along because of the “cosmic reason”. A change in circumstance can lead to better things because it can give you a kick up the bum to go out and look for better things. My point is, we make good choices and bad choices all the way through our lives the important thing is that we make them and take responsibility for them.
The sum of these choices makes us what we are and they are the only thing we can control. We can’t always control what happens to us, or what other do to us but we can control what we do about it. It is easy to say this, and not easy to do but we can at least try and take the responsibility when we don’t 😉