Fifty Three

SO here I am, all fully transferred to the blog-site that is WordPress! I feel sure I will never be as prolific a blogger as I appeared over the last 3 days, after all 52 blogs in 3 days would be quite an impressive feat! that is not entirely the point, however but it does relate. As I have been transferring my previous posts across it has struck me that there are some recurring themes running through them. Not least of which is the idea of taking responsibility for your own actions. I feel I need to say a little more about this today, and extend the concept to not only taking responsibility for your own actions, but for your life. The inspiration for this post comes from a situation that a very good friend of mine has been in recently, it has now been resolved and that story is not mine to tell but the idea of someone taking advantage of my friends make me angry. So in keeping with tradition, here is a picture of my friends:

I am lucky, i think, that I surround myself with friends and family who are descent and kind people. They would go out of their way to help me if I needed it as I would them. It is beyond my comprehension tha there are people out there who would take advantage of this nature to further their own selfish needs.

I have spoken before about choices and about filling your life with as much as you want to fill it with in a conscious manner rather than coasting through life asleep. These choices are as much about taking personal responsibility for yourself and your life as they are about hobbies. Every one of us chooses they way our life goes at some point. There are some situations that are beyond our control, and sometimes the actions of others have an indelible effect on our own life, but there comes a point (for the most part) where you can choose whether you will let these actions steer your whole life or whether you will actively choose to move beyond them and make yourself into something you want to be.

There are times in most people’s live when they are put in difficult situations, either through choices they have made or through the actions of others. The measure of a person is not how they get into these situations but how they deal with them. It is at these times that there is the temptation to blame other people, make excuses and expect the world to give you everything you need. This is where personal responsibility come in…it is here that you have to stand up and do everything possible to help yourself…If you have to ask people for help, then make sure you are doing as much or more than them to help yourself.

I am attempting not to rant, I am also attempting not to sound like I am telling you how to live your life. I will instead ask you a question about how you would prefer to be though of.

Would you like be a person who has the respect of others, who people could help with the certain knowledge that you would do the same for them?

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Would you like to be alone with the knowledge that your excuses have driven away your friends?

Would you like to be embittered by the belief that everyone else has done you wrong, an embitterment made worse by the fact that deep down you know you have no one to blame but yourself?

I know the answer I would choose and I know that is why I will continue to live consciously and choose the way my life goes.

 

Thirty Six: Concerning light through the dark

Originally posted 11th March 2011

It has been an emotional week one way or the other, as you might have noticed! Normal service has been resumed within my brain now however and I have started thinking again. I have been thinking about one of the things I said on Tuesday “I will not descend into darkness”. It occurred to me that in life there is light and darkness which operate as two sides of the same thing, it is all just a matter of which way you are facing. There are times when you have to make a choice, turn to face the dark or turn and remind yourself that there is light at the other side. Sometimes it is hard work and the light seems a long way away but seek it hard enough and it will shine into the darkness.

Today’s photo shows how even the smallest amount of light can shine through the dark and change it from a scary place to a place with a rabbit in it (or even a smile!) I decided on a literal photo to make my metaphorical point but I think it works quite well! Wherever you find your light, hobbies, friends, books or even work grab on to it and it will banish the dark eventually.

By the way, there has not been a watch update in too long so despite the fact that I am sure no one cares…I am still wearing 2 watches and no one at my new work has noticed!

Twenty Eight: Concerning career choice

Originally posted 29th February 2011

It is official, my new beginning has begun! Well actually my new job has begun which is really just another phase in the never ending varied spectrum of careers  I have had. I am happy with this though, I have had lots of jobs which have all left me with new and interesting skills and I tend towards itchy feet anyway where jobs are concerned so it is all good. It does make me wonder however about the tendency within society to force specialisation on people at an early age, it is generally expected that at the time of choosing university courses and to some extent A levels we will know what we want to do.The question is are we really equipped to make that decision at that age and level of life experience. After all, all my school life I was working towards joining the RAF and flying relatively small fast aeroplanes. Like this one:

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If when I was at school you told me I would have forgone flying aeroplanes for writing technical documentation, I suspect I would have been somewhat skeptical!

It makes me wonder how many people out there know what they want to do at 18 and actually do it. I have a suspicion that there are a fair few people who reach 30 with no real idea if they are in the right business. I also think that it is not as important as they would lead you to believe at school. Switching careers, or roles within a career, as I have already mentioned, leads to a varied skill set and I suspect, a more well rounded employee.

I didn’t go with 2 watches for the first day…convention won out.

Nine: Concerning new beginnings

Originally Posted 7th February 2011

Post nine, start of week two! To be quite honest I didn’t think I’d make it this far, and I never really intended this to be one a day but now it seems appropriate. I do have to warn you however that In a week I am starting a new Open University course and shortly after theat a new job so the post may become less frequent but I will do my best! The reason I talked about the new course and the new job leads me on to today’s random musing and therefore today’s picture:

This picture is a view of sunrise over San Francisco taken on the first morning in the apartment we were renting over there. It was amazing to wake up every morning to sunrises and views like this and I definitely did not spend enough time there. This is not the main reason I posted this photo today; it is here to represent new beginnings. Something I have been thinking about recently due to the amount of new things that are about to start in my life.

This also really follows on from post seven about choices; there is a great tendency in the human race (or at least the ones I come into contact with) to talk about how they should make changes, about how they will start on monday or next month or next year. There is a desire to wait for a big event to make a change, people make new year’s resolutions or they change on their birthday or for an event like a wedding. Either that or it takes an external factor like redundancy or illness to force a change.

The point of the picture is to remind you (and me) that there is a new beginning every day. There is no need to wait for a monday or the start of a month or year, every day is brand new and can go any way you want it to. If you want to start something why not today? With every sunrise make the decision about how the day will go. They might not all look as spectacular as the one in the picture but they are all new. A new day can mean a new outlook, or a new habit or a new beginning. If we wake up every day and decide on a new action or activity, then life could get a whole lot more interesting!